Making God the Head of Your Home

Lurline Grant
Jun 10
4 min read

Updated: Jun 11

For the DabaR™ Community — Faith for Real Family Living

Have you ever observed a family gathering where everyone is fully enjoying the comforts of your home, but are totally disconnected from each other. Everyone has a mirad of things to get done, all of which are priorities. Each day's schedule is full, the responsibilities never seem to end, and the days slip by so quickly, that peaceful family time begins to feel like something that is occassionaly experienced, instead of something you truly live in.

Sometimes it’s not even the loud chattering but more of a heaviness. Or an irritation that has lingered too long. Family time conversations become shorter. Prayer becomes occasional, as our brains become tired. Yet, beneath all this lies the recurring question:

How do we make our home feel spiritually alive again?

However, we can surely say the answer is not found in us trying to create a “perfect Christian home.”

It begins much simpler than that. It starts with intentionally making room for God — not just on Sundays or during difficult moments, but in the everyday flow of family life. Giving God the pre-emenience in our homes, placing Him actually in the center of everything: our conversations, our parenting, our laughter, decisions, struggles, and especially our imperfect moments.

It Starts With The Right Atmosphere

You can walk into a home and immediately feel the atmosphere. Some homes feel tense, some feel cold. Some feel rushed.

And yet others carry a great sence peace — not because life is perfect there, but because God’s presence has been consistently welcomed and entertained there.

This peaceful atmosphere does not happen accidentally, it grows bit by bit as we intentionally choose to make housing God's presence our priority and work to maintain it;

When prayer becomes natural instead of a rare occurrence.

When forgiveness happens quickly.

When God’s Word is spoken in ordinary moments.

When grace is louder than criticism.

God Was Never Meant to Be a Visitor in our Homes

Though deeply loving God, so many people have unintentionally keep Him at the edges of our daily lives and so,

We pray when something goes wrong.

We open the Bible when we feel overwhelmed, and we seek Him in emergencies.

But God desires, and our relationships with Him requires more than just giving Him occasional access to our homes. He wants to dwell there — to be intimately involved in the everyday rhythm of family life.

This can can be a lot simpler than we imagine.

We can start by :

Praying together before everyone leaves the house or;
Praying together before supper or bedtime.
Playing worship music while cooking dinner
Reading one Scripture before bedtime
Speaking blessings over our children
Pausing to pray in middle of an argument

These small moments may seem insignificant, but over time they will shape and strengthen the spiritual foundation of our homes.

Children Remember What They Feel

One of the most profound things parents can understand is this: our children may not remember every lesson, but they will remember the atmosphere they grew up in.

They remember if home felt safe.

They remember how we handled our conflicts .

They remember whether love felt conditional or steady.

They remember whether our faith felt real or false.

Never forget that a child who regularly sees us praying, learns that God is approachable.

A child who is encouraged learns the power of words.

A child who witnesses forgiveness learns what mercy and love really looks like.

Our daily lives quietly disciple our families as we mold moment by moment.

Let Grace Live There Too

Sometimes people hear messages about God-centered homes and immediately feel pressure or guilt, after comparing themselves with the "unattainable". Always remember: God is not asking your family to become flawless overnight.

There will still be difficult days.

There will still be disagreements.

There will still be moments when everyone feels exhausted.

A God-centered home is not a home without struggle. It's home that keeps turning back towards Him in the middle of those struggles.

God's grace has to live there too.

Protecting the Peace of Your Home

The truth is, many things compete for the attention and spiritual focus of a family.

Constant busyness.

Financial stress

Excessive Social media.

Entertainment overload.

Emotional exhaustion.

Without realizing it, these things can slowly and impactfully begin shaping the atmosphere more than God’s presence is allowed to.

This is why protecting the peace of our home matters. Sometimes protecting peace means saying no to unnecessary chaos.

Sometimes it means putting phones away for a while.

Sometimes it means choosing prayer before panic.

Peace grows where God is consistently welcomed.

You Don’t Have to Start Big

If your home has felt spiritually dry lately, don’t overwhelm yourself trying to fix everything at once.

Start small.

Say a prayer before bed tonight.

Read one Psalm together this week.

Speak more gently tomorrow morning.

Invite God into the ordinary parts of your day.

Over time small acts of Godliness will change the atmosphere in our homes

A Final Encouragement from DabaR™

At DabaR™, we believe a home rooted in God’s Word becomes more than just a place to live — it becomes a place where faith grows, hearts are heal, and future generations are shaped.

Our goal is not perfection. Our goal is entertaining and detaining God’s presence.

When God truly becomes the center of our home, even ordinary moments begin to carry peace, warmth, and purpose in ways that words can hardly describe.